How to Build Confidence (Without Faking It)

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build. And the blueprint is simple: say what you’re going to do—and do it.

You don’t need to overcomplicate this. Here’s how you start:
“I’m going to wake up at 6 a.m. and do my 20-minute morning routine.”
That’s it. That’s the rep. That’s the foundation.

Here’s another place to start:
“At 9:30 p.m., I’m going to shut down my phone, start my night routine, and get in bed.”
No distractions. No negotiating. Just follow through. And when you do, something shifts inside you—you start to trust yourself.

Because confidence isn’t about being perfect. I’m not. I make mistakes. But here’s why I’m confident:
“I’m confident because I know my systems, my routines, and my schedules will realign me—if I stay honest and trust the process.”

That’s what gives me peace. That’s what gives me power.

Dr. Andrew Huberman once said,

“The ability to access forward momentum in life relies on small wins. Forward movement, even if only symbolic, builds confidence and resilience.”

You want to feel better about yourself? Stack those small wins. Get out of bed when you said you would. Put the phone down when you said you would. Eat when you said you would. Stop when you said you would.

That’s how confidence is built—in private, in the quiet spaces of routine and discipline. And here’s the truth: most of us care more about other people’s opinions than our own. But if you don’t trust yourself, why would anyone else trust you? More importantly—why should they?

So I challenge you to start small. Just two things:

• Wake up at the same time every day.

• Go to bed at the same time every night.

Then add one more thing:
Make one small sacrifice. Maybe it’s deciding, “I’m going to eat this and stop,” and then following through.

That’s where it starts. That’s how you build real, grounded confidence.

Say it. Do it. Repeat.

And I promise you—with everything in me—you will become more confident.