The Myth of Instant Fixes

Everybody wants the results. Nobody wants the process.

That’s the hard truth I’ve had to learn in my own life—and it's one I see over and over again in the lives of the people I work with. People crave transformation. They want freedom from addiction. A ripped body. They want peace from anxiety. They want to love themselves again. But the moment they realize it takes discomfort, discipline, and time—they start looking for a shortcut. A fix. A hack. Anything but the actual work.

And I get it. I used to think the same thing.

For a long time, I thought if I just believed hard enough, or got clean long enough, or went to enough therapy sessions, the miracle would hit. Boom—healed. But that’s not how healing works. That’s not how recovery works. That’s not how life works.

From the very beginning of my book, I talk about this idea:

Every single day, you need a psychic change.
Not once. Not twice. Every. Single. Day.

You need a shift in belief. You need to wake up and remind yourself who you are, what you’re doing, and why it matters. Because if you don’t stay conscious of it, you fall back into the cycle. The cycle of looking for comfort. Looking for ease. Looking for that quick dopamine hit. That instant relief.

Let me tell you something straight:
Recovery isn’t Amazon Prime.
You don’t get to order clarity and expect it in two days.
You can’t click a button and become whole.
Healing takes time. It takes pain. It takes problems, relapse, reevaluation. It takes walking through fire and being willing to show up again the next day. And the next. And the next.

I see so many people chasing fast. They chase detox centers like they’re a magic pill. They chase influencers promising “5 steps to heal your trauma.” They chase workouts that promise six-pack abs in 21 days. They chase relationships hoping someone else will fix what’s broken inside.

It’s all a lie.

We live in a world that sells us this deception of the “quick fix.”
But here's what they don’t tell you: There is no overnight success.

You can’t compare your reality to someone’s highlight reel. You don’t see the years behind their moment. You don’t see the tears, the setbacks, the nights they didn’t believe in themselves. You just see the end product.

So let me flip this for you.

Instead of asking, “How can I fix this fast?”,
ask: “What brick am I laying today?”

Because that’s all it really is:

Brick by brick, you are building your own house.
Every decision. Every action. Every commitment.
You’re laying down the foundation of the life you’re gonna live in.

And it’s not glamorous.
It’s not flashy.
There are no viral videos for consistency.
No likes for daily discipline.
No applause for turning down what tempts you most.

But that’s what builds freedom.

I hear people say all the time in the rooms of recovery:

“Don’t leave before the miracle happens.”

Because most people quit right before the change begins.
Right before they were about to feel something different.
Right before the work was about to pay off.

And I get it—it's hard. It feels like nothing's changing. But your pain didn’t show up overnight. So why do we expect it to disappear overnight?

That’s not how it works.

Let me hit a few more things that I believe deep in my bones:

Instant Gratification Is the Enemy of Long-Term Freedom

If you’re always chasing the easiest route, you’re gonna stay stuck.
Freedom isn’t found in comfort—it’s found in sacrifice. In trading what you want now for what you want most.

“Discipline is choosing what you want most over what you want now.”
That quote hits because it’s real.

You Can’t Microwave Character

You can’t speed up maturity. You can’t hack grit.
Character is what you build in silence. In private. When no one’s watching.
It’s not bought—it’s earned.

Every Shortcut Will Eventually Cost You More

I’ve taken shortcuts. I’ve relapsed. I’ve ghosted people who loved me.
I’ve tried to game the system. You know what it got me?
Pain. Delay. Regret.
You always pay the price eventually.

Miracles Happen With the Work, Not Instead of It

I believe in miracles. I’ve lived one.
But even miracles need motion.
God might open a door, but you still gotta walk through it.
No one’s carrying you to freedom—you gotta take those steps yourself.

So here’s what I want to leave you with:

If you're stuck, struggling, or just tired of starting over, this is your reminder:
Stay in the process.
Embrace the discomfort.
Stop chasing quick fixes.

Instead, pick up your brick and lay it down today.
Then tomorrow, do it again.
And again.

Because one day, you’re gonna wake up inside a life you actually built—
not one you escaped into, not one you pretended for, but one you earned.

And that feeling?

That’s the miracle.